The beginning of the wedding season spells doom for most of the singles, be it men or women. Being single, you constantly have to wiggle your way out of awkward conversations, you have to work your way through all your "well-wishers" who want to set you up with someone, and wish to avoid those pitying glances of your cousins and friends who are already married. But, not anymore! Thanks to this wonderful guide that we have compiled for you, you can sail through the wedding season with ease. What’s more? You might even come out gaining a friend or two, or set an example of how awesome "the singledom" life truly is. So, read on…
You don’t have to attend every wedding you are invited toYes, let us start with this. Singles often are overwhelmed with the number of people who ask them, “So, what are YOUR plans for marriage?” Pick and choose the weddings you want to go to. This will not only help you save money that you might have to spend on travelling or buying clothes (or both), but will also give you peace of mind.Well, if you have been asked this, or other such questions quite often and quite repeatedly, then it just means one thing- you are attending too many weddings. Your third cousin from your mother’s side may invite you to her 7-day gala wedding, but it does not mean that you have to go. Send a gift and a note, wishing them and giving an excuse, and leave it at that.
Be on the lookout for other singlesIf you end up attending the wedding (by force or wish!), then here is what you should be doing when you are at the wedding. Once you have managed to escape the clutches of evil relatives, keep your eyes open for other singles, who might be having a hard time as well. Go and introduce yourself to them, and spend all your time with them. After all, you have great food, a dance floor, and cocktails flowing freely; there is no reason why you should stand in a corner and be miserable. Word of Advice: Kids, don’t count as singles. So, hanging out with them might make you appear more miserable than you might be!
Look as fab as you can!Whether it is your best friend, or that cousin whom you have never met, who is getting married, use every wedding as an excuse to look your best. Pamper yourself, go for spa sessions, buy the trendiest clothes, and show-off how fab the "single's status" can be! Who knows, you might just end up making a few married ones jealous, or skip a heart beat or two!
Never bring a 'bad' dateMany singles, in a bid to stop people from commenting on their single status, bring along a date (often referred to as ‘good friends’). This most likely happens when you might be attending a friend, a colleague, or a very-very distant relative's wedding. It could be someone from office, a friend who has asked you out and you might have refused, and in worse case scenarios, even an ex! Now, at times, these so called attempts at bringing a ‘plus 1’ along might not be a good idea, especially if it turns out to be a ‘bad date’. Also, most people (read: aunties) have strong memories, and the next time you meet them at a wedding, you are going to have to answer some really uncomfortable questions about him/her. Plus, you will be miserable having to put up with a bad date, who will constantly remind you of the favour they are doing for you, by turning up with you.
Don’t go to a wedding with unrealistic expectationsA handsome, eligible bachelor meets a beautiful, single girl at a wedding, they fall in love, and they live happily ever after. Sounds perfect, right? Well, that happens only in the movies (Hum Aapke Hain Koun… anyone?)! Sadly, real life is very different from reel one. Dress up in your best, look fabulous, have a blast, but don’t keep secretly hoping that you will run into your soul mate at the wedding. At the most, your irritating aunt might try to set you up with a few "Buntys" or "Dollys".
Don’t get drunkThe open bar may beckon you to have yet another drink, but you try to have some self-control. After all, you don’t want people to think that you are drinking to drown your sorrows of still being single. Instead, stick to non-alcoholic beverages, and be the life of the party. And, as we said before, be on a lookout for some good and fun company of other singles!
Steer clear of "them"!Now you are definitely ready to take on any wedding and come out with flying colours, and make a few ‘good friends’ too. But, all said and done, here are two groups we just have to warn you about. Steer clear of these two types, to make sure you really enjoy yourself! Over-concerned aunts and unclesIf this is your relative's wedding, leave it on your parents to handle them. Just greet them, and be polite, and keep away from this group that consists of nosiest people. Their over concern is bound to get your spirits down, or your mood at least, so stay away from them, to avoid answering pity glares and awkward questions.
Newly married couplesThey are just bound to go gaga over the tales from their dream wedding, perfect honeymoon, or their new life together. They will either gush about how awesome their partners are or how great married life is. They might not ask you awkward questions, but they will make sure to oversell marriage to such an extent that the word will start making you feel ‘sick’.
Pamper yourself after the weddingSometimes, weddings might make some of you doubt your life's choices, and the 'single' status. But instead of wallowing in self-pity or endless retrospections, you should be cheerful. Just because you haven’t found your soul mate, does not mean you never will (or you HAVE to!). The best way to cheer yourself during the wedding season is to indulge yourself in the things you love. It could be a spa, your favourite movie, or spending time with your best buddies for a while. After enduring all those questions and nosy relatives, you deserve a treat!
Never let anybody make you feel low. Remember, anybody can get hitched; but your days of singlehood will never come back again. Enjoy them till they last.